“Can you be angry with someone and love them at the same time?” That was the question someone posed on an internet forum the other day, and I think it’s an important question.
It might seem odd, but I think, under certain circumstances, we can be simultaneously angry and loving.
To me, it depends on what motivates the anger. If we are angry with someone because they are betraying themselves — not being true to themselves — then, yes, we can love and be angry at the same time.
But if, for instance, we are angry with someone because they are doing something we feel might result in our loosing them, then we are ultimately thinking of ourselves. Our anger does not seem then to be motivated by love of them, but by fear of some loss to ourselves. And in that instance, I don’t suppose anger and love are felt at the same time.
What do think? Have I nailed an important distinction here? Or should I quit waking up in the middle of the night to make half-awake blog posts?