Some years ago, I read an insightful remark about Hugh Hefner. I can’t remember now who made the remark, except that it was a male friend of Hefner’s. At any rate, Hefner’s friend was defending Hefner from charges that he exploited women. And the friend said something along these lines:
“Hugh Hefner has had sex with at least 2000 women during his career and yet not one of those women has come forward with a complaint against him. Think of that. Many of us have one or two ex-spouses who cannot for the life of them speak good of us. But Hefner has in effect thousands of ex’s, none of whom speak ill of him. If he is bad news for women, where then are the complaints?”
I was reminded of that man’s remarks this morning when I was looking at a video of David Letterman’s confession to having had sex with several of his female employees. Having sex with an employee — let alone several of them over the years — is a risky thing to do. It’s risky because it’s possible your employee is having sex with you only because she fears losing her next promotion — or perhaps her job. No morally sane person wants someone to have sex with them out of fear of what will happen if they don’t.
In Letterman’s case, though, where are the complaints? If it turns out that some employee he’s had sex with comes forward with charges that she did not want to have sex with him, then Letterman will deserve to be brought up on charges of sexual harassment.
But if none of the women he’s had sex with charge him with sexual harassment, why should anyone care what went on between him and his employees?
At least that’s the way I see it this evening. Am I making any sense, or should I go fetch some sleep and then re-think the issue?