Yesterday, someone reminded me that I have a birthday coming up in January. I will be 53 then. That seems like a lot of years to me until I remember that my mother is well over 91.
She still lives alone, and in her own home, although she nowadays has a couple women who come each morning to do the chores. My brothers have from time to time asked her to come live with them, but she won’t have it. She’s too independently minded for that.
Despite that she relies on others to take care of the chores, she’s active and gets out of the house each day. Her routine is to go to the post office and then eat lunch at her favorite restaurant, where she often meets up with a friend or two. She’s not much for cooking these days.
I wonder how transparent I am to her? How transparent any 53 year old is to someone of her age?
I know that people much younger than 50 are for the most part pretty transparent to us 50 year olds. We often see right through them. Just as an 18 year old can see right through a child of six. So, I wonder if that’s still true at 90? Do 90 year olds see through us 50 year olds just as readily as a young adult sees through a child?
I would bet my mom can see right through me. Which means, that in some ways, nothing has changed. She always could see right through me.