This morning, a young friend told me he is saving himself for his future wife. Now, I don’t care whether he saves himself or not. It’s his business — and maybe the business of his future wife — but it’s none of my business what he does about sex before marriage. However, I was still curious about the reason he gave me for saving himself.
According to my friend, his having sexual relations with another woman would unjustly deprive his future wife of something. Like I said, I don’t really care what he ends up doing, but I do feel he has given me a poor reason for doing what he wants to do.
Of course, my objection to his reasoning is based in my own experience. Sex with my second wife was on an order of magnitude better, more meaningful, and more satisfying than sex with my first wife. Moreover, I would not expect things to have happened that way if it were true that sex with one woman deprives another woman of anything significant.
I wonder who first came up with the notion that having sexual relations with another woman will unjustly deprive one’s future wife of something? It wasn’t my friend. He was merely repeating something he’d heard, and for his own reasons had come to believe in the absence of any evidence. So I would like to know who first minted that counterfeit coin?