Quite recently, a friend mentioned to me her fears of growing old, which she strongly associates with losing her sexual attractiveness. She further said that she did not know how she would be able to handle it if and when her husband began looking at much younger women.
Perhaps because I have no life, her remarks put me in mind of my own blog post on the subject of men looking at naked teens. The post happens to be the current favorite on this blog. It is googled several times each day, and it has collected over 300 comments. At that point, a couple off the cuff and more or less random thoughts occurred to me.
First, it does not seem to me that many of the commentators on that post give much consideration to the the aesthetics of porn in their attempts to answer the question of why so many adult men are attracted to pictures of naked teens. Yet, the simple fact is that most internet porn photographers are very poor photographers indeed.
Capturing the sexual beauty of a middle age woman is almost certainly beyond their skills.
In contrast, young people typically have a more obvious — perhaps one might even say they have a blunt — beauty that requires no skill to capture at least some of it. It seems to me that taking a photo of a teen might even be a bit like taking a photo of a snow-capped mountain against a blue sky. How can you possibly screw it up so much that it fails to even hint of beauty?
So let me therefore suggest, as an hypothesis of sorts, that the most palatable internet porn usually features younger models, and that it seems likely some men — although certainly not all men — who look at young models do so because the pictures of older models are even worse than the pictures of young models.
A second random thought I had this morning was to wonder how many 30 year old men who fantasize about having sex with teens would prefer a teen to a woman their age if they had actual sexual experience of both? Now, I would not be at all surprised if a fair minority of men would prefer the teen. But I would be surprised if a majority of such men would prefer the teen.
Maybe I’m totally wrong about this, but I imagine most 30 year old men would soon enough get bored with a teenager’s sexuality. When I was in my 30s and 40s, I had a lot of young female friends. I even found some of them sexually attractive. But I did not discover in all those years even a single teen or young woman who I was so sexually attracted to that I felt I wanted to act on my attraction. And there were certainly no teens or young women during that period of my life that came close to stirring in me the passion that a certain friend near my own age managed to inspire.
I realize personal experiences cannot be legitimately generalized into firm statements about everyone’s tastes, but I still find it difficult, based on my own experiences, to believe that a majority of middle age men would be fixated on having sex with teens and young women — regardless of what they choose to look at on the net. And even regardless of what they fantasize they might do in imagined situations. I think, if they were actually put to the test, most middle age men would discover whatever fantasies they might have about teens and young women are just that — fantasies.
I suspect, however, that most middle age women in our society — including my friend — are heavily indoctrinated to believe that teen sexuality is somehow superior to their own. That seems to me to be pure horseshit, but I recognize that it is very difficult for anyone to reverse his or her indoctrination.
At any rate, those were two, or maybe three, random thoughts that came to me this morning. They are a bit more off the cuff than perhaps they should be, but I thought they might prompt some interesting comments. If so, have at it!