When I was in my teens, perhaps the most controversial sexual topic among my peers was whether or not to perform oral sex on a woman.
It was pretty much settled by that time in my small, rural Midwestern town that oral sex was an excellent thing for a woman to give a man. The only controversy was whether men should reciprocate.
Today, it might surprise you that much of the resistance to oral sex came from the women. Near as I knew, about half of my female peers were opposed to it, mostly I think from embarrassment at the mere thought that their boyfriends might be repelled by getting up close and personal with “down there”. It was worse with the men though. Among my male peers, perhaps two-thirds were opposed.
But I think nowadays the one fact that might by itself tell you the most about the attitudes of that time and place is that, even among those of us who thought giving oral sex to a woman was ok, almost no one — male or female — thought it was just about mandatory. It was considered as optional as nibbling on someone’s ear, icing on the cake at best, even something exotic that you did for no better reason than to break the routine.
The days when oral sex was almost universally seen as an exotic option are long gone now, but I was reminded of those days this evening when I came across a new study, published in mid-February in the Archives of Sexual Behavior journal, with the alarmingly suggestive title of, Differences in Orgasm Frequency Among Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Heterosexual Men and Women in a U.S. National Sample. Robin Andrews, writing for the blog, IFLScience, nicely sums up one of the conclusions of the study:
A group of researchers from Indiana University and Chapman University surveyed over 52,000 people – which included a range of straight, gay, lesbian, and bisexual men and women aged between the ages of 18 and 65 – and concluded that there is a “golden trio” of actions that will all-but-ensure female orgasm occurs. That, ladies and gentlemen, is deep kissing, genital stimulation, and oral sex.
The whole article is well worth reading, and can be found here.