Human Nature, Life, People, Self, Self Interest, Society

How to Make a Good First Impression, the Quick, EZ Way

(About a 2 minute read)

Last night, I popped into an internet chat room only to discover that folks had been mentioning me.  “Ask Paul.”  “Paul will know.”  And so forth.  Obviously, someone was trying to figure out who’d given them a wedgie.

As it happened, I was wrong about that.  All they wanted were some “How-To” instructions on making a good first impression.  It was therefore simple enough for me to give them the do and don’t of the matter:

DO: Tell her about your three fulsome inches of government-inspected, women-pleasing, rocket-slide-ride.

DON’T: Actually show it to her, least she notice how much you’ve exaggerated the length.

Simple stuff.  Next question, please.  Let’s keep them moving.

Only they weren’t letting me off that easy.

Now the person who was actually posing the question has told me she has a short attention span.  So I decided to take that into account in answering her question about how to make a good first impression.  In short, I decided to stick to the gist.

“Basically, you ask questions in order to get them talking about themselves.  That’s it in a nutshell.”

It shouldn’t be too hard to do.  You will most likely be helped along by the fact that they will try to impress you by telling you all about themselves.

That’s what most people do,  they try to tell you impressive things about themselves, yet doing so tends to come across to most audiences as much less than deeply impressive.  You’ll notice most audiences are soon enough trying to change the subject.

On the other hand, if you can actually get interested in another human enough to ask them a fair number of questions about themselves, and then to listen attentively to their answers, you are all but certain to make a favorable first impression — if not always immediately written into their will.

You can add tons of stuff to what I’ve just said, but to me, it’s all finesse.  The gist is to get them talking about themselves.

Questions?  Comments?

 

13 thoughts on “How to Make a Good First Impression, the Quick, EZ Way”

  1. I’ve noticed that you always ask questions, but don’t often answer the questions of others. I would ask you why, but you probably wouldn’t tell me.

    Anyway, that’s enough about boring old you. Let’s talk about me, goddamnit. I’m interesting.

    1. I certainly cannot argue with you that you’re interesting. That you are! So I am naturally forced to argue with you that you’re actually a computerized kumquat, absolutely high tech.

      More often than not, I don’t answer questions about myself because I accidentally overlook them.

      1. Accidentally on purpose? You should answer some of your posted questions to give us, your lowly readers, an insight into your inner workings 🙂 Mind you, we might regret that….

      2. Some years ago, I answered a few reader questions about myself. Blog traffic immediately dropped off almost to zero, and stayed that way for two weeks, after which I began getting reader demands that I pay their hospital bills.

  2. “get them talking about themselves.” I’ve always used that tactic, but not particularly because I want to make a good first impression. I do it because I hate talking, and if I can get someone else talking I don’t have to. My quietness, however, still intimidates people.

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