Before you come to love someone, you might tell them jokes in the hope she or he will like you. This is not a form of love, but rather a form of persuasion.
After you come to love someone, you might tell them the same jokes, but in the hope that her or his hours and burdens may be thus made lighter. This is not a form of persuasion, but rather a form of love.
Far too many of us commit ourselves to marrying someone who charms us — but who charms us only in an effort to persuade us to like them. Later, when these charmers have won our hearts, they so often lose interest in their game. After all, for them it has achieved its goal of winning our hearts and is thus completed and finished.
Some others of us commit ourselves to marrying someone who charms us — but who charms us in an effort to lighten our hours and burdens. For these charmers, their game never loses their interest because it never reaches its goal. After all, our hours and burdens will always be in need of being made lighter.