Adelia, Coffee Shop Stories, Conversation, Death, Free Spirit, Friends, Grief, Human Nature, Impermance, Life, Living, Loneliness, People, Relationships, Resilience, Sadness

Adelia

(About a 6 minute read)

I heard from Adelia yesterday for the first time in over six years.  “Hi! How are you?”, her email said. Adelia, young woman of a thousand words.

She no longer lives in town so my chances of having a nostalgic beer or two with her in Red Rock Canyon this weekend are greatly diminished from the old days.  She grew up in Red Rock before the City claimed it for a public park.  Back in the days when Red Rock was a haven for outlaws.

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Communication, Conversation, Human Nature, Ideas, Life, Living, Marysa, Neuroscience, Psychology, Relationships, Science, Society, Terese, Teresums

Understanding Each Other

EXECUTIVE SUMMARY:  Paul offers some thoughts on the foundation and basis for mutual human understanding in shared experiences.

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THE CRITICS GO NOVA! “Paul Sunstone has a ravenous appetite for stupidity.  There!  I said it!  I said his name.  My therapist tells me if I say his name often enough, I will accustom myself to it, I will numb myself, and I will no longer burst into uncontrollable giggle-snorting whenever…please excuse me. I am become disconcerted…”  — Arun Ghani, India’s Blogs and Beyond, “The Herald and News”, Hyderabad, India.

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Bad Ideas, Belief, Biases, Communication, Conversation, Creative Thinking, Delusion, Education, Fantasy Based Community, Honesty, Human Nature, Intellectual Honesty, Judgementalism, Learning, Liars Lies and Lying, Life, Living, Magical Thinking, Obligations to Society, Quality of Life, Reason, Self-Flourishing, Skeptical Thinking, Society, Thinking

Willful Stupidity and the Good Reader

(About a 4 minute read)

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”  — George Bernard Shaw

I suspect future historians will now and then speak of us as an “Age of Wonders”.  The wonder of our electronics.  The wonder of our communication technologies.  The wonder of our medical advancements —  especially in the field of mental health.   And so forth.

But sadly, I suspect future historians will also speak of us as an “Age of Willful Stupidity”.

If so, they will doubtlessly say our age began over 100 years ago with the Stupid Bolshevik Revolution in Russia that was soon enough followed by the Rise of Stupid Fascism in Italy.   And the historians are bound to point out that the willful stupidity has continued largely unabated straight through to today’s many Stupid Denial Movements.

I suspect future historians will write whole libraries on that one theme alone — willful stupidity.  And I expect — I actually expect — that somewhere in those libraries there will be a book or article with an insightful footnote saying, “The first casualty of willful stupidity is the art of listening.”

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Art, Conversation, Cultural Change, Cultural Traits, Culture, Fun, Life, Living, Play, Society, The Art of Living Well, The Critics Respond

The Lost Art of Conversation

EXECUTIVE SUMMARY:  Paul offers his opinion on the lost art of conversation and what killed it.

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THE CRITICS EMOTE! “Paul Sunstone?  Conversation?  The mind reels at the very thought of Paul Sunstone trying to have a conversation with anyone or anything other than a beige painted wall.  The chav’s idea of a conversation is to inflict his interminable lectures on people until his audiences bleed out from boredom as if stabbed by it. The absolute best one might say about Sunstone and conversation is that both of them are dead today, only the latter has come back to us as a zombie.  And a boring zombie at that!”  —  Merriweather Sterling, Blogs of the Day, “The Daily Burtie”, Berwick-Upon-Tweed, England, UK.

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Advice, Aesthetics, Art, Authenticity, Beauty, Being True To Yourself, Communication, Conversation, Human Nature, Ideas, Muses, Parihkit Dutta, Relationships

Good Muse, Bad Muse! The Use and Abuse of Muses

EXECUTIVE SUMMARY: Paul offers his opinion on the key importance and function of muses.  Bonus: Five tips on picking a good muse or avoiding a bad one.

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THE CRITICS GO NOVA! “Paul Sunstone’s definition of ‘art’ is far too broad to be useful.  It makes any effort at communication an art, including Parikhit Dutta’s habit while a young man of getting drunk on Friday nights at the Tarry-All Tip and Pour Bar, then signing his name in the snow outside in his own pee.  On the few nights up in the Tarry-All Mountains when there wasn’t any snow, Parikhit would simply stand swaying drunk for up to 45 minutes looking as pathetically lonely and lost as that moose that wandered into Downtown Colorado Springs back in the summer of ’01. Paul Sunstone’s ‘Good Muse, Bad Muse’ resembles nothing so much more than Parikhit Dutta’s very worse autographs  on his most drunken Friday nights.”  — Gus “Gunning Gus” Johnson, The Blog Critic’s Column, “Leper’s Gulch Gazette”, Leper’s Gulch, Colorado, USA.

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Boredom, Conversation, Quality of Life, Teresums

Seven Frolicsome Guidelines to a Great Conversation!

(About a 11 minute read)

“I begin with the principle that all men are bores. Surely no one will prove himself so great a bore as to contradict me in this.”  — Soren Kierkegaard

 

TERESUMS: Hello?

PAUL:  You! Woman! Tell me fast because I don’t have any time today for you and your precious small talk.  I’m under a tight publishing schedule. My readers are hungry for new flesh.  Answer me: What makes me the world’s best conversationalist?  You should know.  You’re one of the people still talking to me.  Thirty seconds.

TERESUMS: Paul, I feel pressured.  You’re not being fair!

PAUL: Got it! I’m great because because I’m not fair.  What else?  Twenty seconds.

TERESUMS: But Paul, I didn’t meant that!

PAUL: Got it! I never say what I mean.  Fifteen now.

TERESUMS: Paul, you can’t be serious.  Wait! I said nothing!  Nothing!

PAUL:  Serious about nothing.  You’re being a great help.  Wrap it up now.  Bottom line!

TERESUMS: Paul, you’re off your meds.  I can tell.

PAUL: Always on drugs.  Great key factors, Terese!  You’re a great help — for a girl!

TERESUMS: I swear by Krishna, if I ever get my hands even near your throat….Paul?  Are you there, Paul?


Dear Readers, please take note this post is firmly in keeping with the excellent standards and traditions of Café Philos and of me, Paul Sunstone. It is guaranteed not fair, not what I mean, not serious, and I swear I was on drugs when I wrote it.  Enjoy, you insatiable flesh eating beasts!

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