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Sentimentalizing love like a pop star, a popular movie, or a romance novel sentimentalizes love is all sweet innocent fun — just like sentimentalizing your romantic and attractive fireplace. Until you forget to check that all the coals are dead before going on vacation — only to come home and discover your house has burnt down, right along with your cheap, plastic altars to the Goddess of Love.
For instance, want to put yourself at risk of cheating on your partner? Just tell yourself you are not the type to cheat, that you’re too honest, too loyal for that — that love has no power of its own over you. That’s the same as letting your guard down. Love is lawless and subversive. Go ahead and tell yourself you yourself are beyond it’s reach. Live dangerously: Tell yourself you’re beyond its reach!
Sentimentalize love at your own risk.