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The Right of Young Women to be Pleasured

EXECUTIVE SUMMARY: Paul’s take on the notion that young women posses a right to demand their lovers make a reasonable effort to pleasure them.


THE CRITICS SING! “I challenge any honest and decent man or woman to read, ‘The Right of Young Women to be Pleasured’ without it causing their moral conscience to wail like an entire band of banshees.”  —  Merriweather Sterling, Blogs of the Day, “The Daily Burtie”, Berwick-Upon-Tweed, England, UK.

THE CRITICS RHAPSODIZE! “Sunstone published today, and Christ wept. It has become time to end Heaven’s and the World’s suffering. The guillotine must be returned to its proper use tout de suite.” — Aloyse Leblanc, Le Critique Passionné de Blog, “La Tribune Linville”, Linville, France.

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Paul’s Three Inviolate Rules of Sex

EXECUTIVE SUMMARY: Paul offers to his Readers the “Three Inviolate Rules of Sex” that he himself never — never — knowingly broke back in the days when he was still into partner sex.


THE CRITICS ENTHUSE! “Paul Sunstone has gone and done it again.  Again put me in vivid mind of the time back in ’03 when it snowed so deep folks were forced to ski off their second-floor balconies if they wanted to escape their homes. Sunstone has once again piled it high. Too high, for decent folks.”  — Gus “Gunning Gus” Johnson, The Blog Critic’s Column, “Leper’s Gulch Gazette”, Leper’s Gulch, Colorado, USA.

THE CRITICS EMOTE! “Paul Sunstone’s ‘Three Inviolate Rules’ are striking in their appalling similarity to his all-too-frequent, vulgar description of himself as in possession of ‘a fulsome three inches of yearning, pussy-pleasing meat-rocket’.  Apparently,  the damn fool is just as intolerably proud of his ‘Three Rules’ as he is of his three inches. But no mere fool’s pride can hide the truth. Sunstone is short of penis, short of rules, and shortest of all of commonsense standards.”  —  Merriweather Sterling, Blogs of the Day, “The Daily Burtie”, Berwick-Upon-Tweed, England, UK.

THE CRITICS GO WILD! “Stab me! Please stab me! I need to bleed out every last poisonous drop of Sunstone’s advice from my body and brain, and I need to do it fast. Stab me deep!  I need to bleed-out fast.” — Arun Ghani, India’s Blogs and Beyond, “The Herald and News”, Hyderabad, India.

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A Death in the Spring

This poem is dedicated to Majel Campbell, an admired and esteemed friend, and to Terese Bozdas and Marysa Storm, who were its graceful muses. The poem can be thought of as a true, novella-length story of a young woman’s betrayal and murder by a false man who she believed loved her. I was myself a nearby witness to the events recounted in the poem, but powerless to alter or prevent the triumph of evil.

The two core themes of the poem are the nature of love and the nature of evil.


“An amazing journey of love, evil, truth and wisdom.” — Teresums

“I’m blown away!! Such an epic, beautiful poem, yet so sad! Truly among your best!”  — Scott

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A Flock of Sparrows for Majel: We Love to Forbid Love

A Flock of Sparrows for Majel

(About a 4 minute read)

I like to think twelve things redeem humanity
Twelve things make up for all our foolishness and our crimes.
Twelve things make our lives worth living in the balance,
Worth living in the balance.

But I know there are only six.
I would like to think there are twelve things,
But I know there are only six.
And perhaps the best of them is love.
And perhaps the best of them is love.

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A Flock of Sparrows for Majel: The Value of Honesty

A Flock of Sparrows for Majel

(About a 2 minute read)

That’s it! The word I was searching for is “curious”!

I find it curious
You do not see that you are lying
When you say, “I love you”.

To yourself mainly.
You are mainly lying to yourself.

I find it curious
How you refuse to look at them.
How you refuse to see them.
See your lies.

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Pride in Aristotle and Christianity

“The description of the proud or magnanimous man [in Aristotle’s Nichomachean Ethics] is very interesting as showing the difference between pagan and Christian ethics…”.  — Bertrand Russell.

SUMMARY:  Pride to Aristotle was a virtue, and a means to happiness, but to Christians, it is a sin, and a means to unhappiness.

(About a 7 minute read)

In Judaism, pride is called the root of all evil, a valuation that seems in part to have been carried over into Christianity, for Christians regard pride as the first and foremost of the Seven Deadly Sins.

In Catholicism, the Seven Deadly Sins are not to be confused with “Mortal Sins” — they do not automatically damn you to hell if you fail to repent of them before death, but they are pretty much bad enough anyway.

In contrast to the Jewish and Christian views, pride was an actual virtue to Aristotle.  Which of course, raises the question, “Why did Aristotle think pride was a virtue?”

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How Young is Too Young to Love?

SUMMARY:  I discuss two separate questions.  First, how old must someone be to feel love? Second, how mature should someone be to handle love?  I address the first question — which is a factual question — through science.  I address the second question — which is a matter of opinion or judgement — through five measures or standards for maturity.

(About a 12 minute read)

After I had reached puberty, a number of adults — including my mother and some of my teachers — cautioned me and others my age that we were “too young to love”.  No explanation was ever given for why we were too young for romantic love.  It was just so.  Lucky for me, I bought into the idea.

I say I was lucky because during high school I became deeply infatuated with a girl in my class.  Had I not bought into the notion I was too young to love, I might have fancied myself in love with her — which would not only have been factually untrue, but I can only image the trouble it would have caused me at the time to think I was in love with her.

Yet, the question of whether I was too young to love is ambiguous.  It can be interpreted in at least two ways.  First, was I too young to feel love (had I actually felt it)?  Second, was I too young to cope with love?

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